Thank God for the Firies!

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In all the years we’ve lived in the country we’ve never had an emergency, that is, until one night a few weeks back when we looked out the kitchen window and saw a raging fire in the back paddock. Fortunately it was an empty paddock, unfortunately there’d been no stock on it for two years and as a consequence the grass was long, dry and ripe for any spark or lightning strike. The flames were totally out of control! I can tell you there is nothing more dramatic than flames leaping up towards the heavens against a pitch black sky!

Hubby took immediate charge, rang the local brigade, then grabbed what he could to fight the flames and was out there within minutes. I on the other hand started panicking ~ I was in complete shock! I did have the presence of mind though to turn on all the outside lights so the fire trucks would have no trouble finding us. It took about 20 minutes for the brigades to arrive ~ three huge tankers tore up the drive, crashed through the fence and up into the paddock. And I can tell you 20 minutes is a bloody long time when there’s an out of control fire raging on your property. Every second seems like forever! The relief though, when they got here was unbelievable! You just know it’ll all be OK when the fire brigade arrives. There wouldn’t be anyone in Australia who isn’t aware of how amazing these guys are, giving of their time, energy and expertise to ensure the community remains safe, but we don’t really realise how much we rely on them until something like this happens.

You might ask, why three tankers? We have no town water and they had to be sure they had enough on hand to do the job quickly, and that they did. As luck would have it there was no wind that night and the fire was out within half an hour. Then afterwards we enjoyed what is typical of all rural volunteer fire brigade get-togethers ~ a good catch up. They all stood around in the paddock for the better part of an hour, and had a good old chin-wag and told a few yarns. It was all so friendly and I was so thankful, I felt like putting on a few snags and cup of tea! One of the volunteers was a new recruit and this was apparently his first fire. In typical Aussie style, when the fire was out they rolled him in the black ashes to initiate his uniform! Why miss an opportunity to have a bit of fun?

During the friendly chat we discovered the real sequence of events that night. As it goes when you live in the country, everyone looks out for everyone else, especially when it comes to fires. Apparently a neighbour saw the flames long before we did and called it in, as did one of the firies who left his uncooked dinner of chicken fillets on the kitchen bench hoping his cat wouldn’t devour them before he got back! Unbeknown to us he rushed over, banged on both the front and back doors, but as we were closeted in the warmth of the lounge with everything closed up he couldn’t raise us. Thinking we weren’t home, he got on with the job, organised two local brigades, fetched his gear from the fire shed and then it was back to our place.

Of course when it was all over they wanted to know how it started, and that was the worst bit ~ it was all, our fault! Ashes from the fireplace, which hubby thought were dead, were in fact still hot. When you live in the country, at some time or other you come into contact with your local volunteer brigade. We were no exception. Hubby was in fact the Vice President of the local brigade at our previous residence so he felt like a right git having inadvertently started the fire, particularly as he was the one who trained the locals for years about fire safety! The end result though was not nearly as dramatic as it could have been. The fire only burned out 1000 square metres of grass ~ about the size of two or three house blocks in today’s residential subdivisions, took out a small part of the back fence plus some of the above ground bore water pipes.
Thank God for the FiriesLater that night when we rang the plumber, who lives 20 kilometres up the road, the first thing he said was, “So you’re the ones responsible for all the smoke!” There’s no such thing as mincing words when it comes to country folk! And then there’s the grapevine, which not only works incredibly fast in a small country town, it can also work its magic. As I said, country folk always lend a hand and there’s nothing like a fire in an empty paddock to get things moving. The next morning we had a neighbour on our doorstep offering his sheep to sort out the long grass. The following day our ‘friendly sheep farmer’ delivered the fencing wire, and today he’s installing it … should be all sorted by next weekend.

We’re fairly new to the area in which we now live, and really hadn’t met many people apart from a neighbour or two and the owners of the local stores. Accidently starting a fire is not the best way to meet the locals, but certainly the best way to feel part of the community spirit of what living in the country is all about. The firies did what they do best, we had the opportunity to feel immense gratitude, the local brigades received a decent donation, and our paddock will be getting organically fertilized and mowed.

Inara Hawley © 2013

Don’t Take It Personally

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‘Be careful what you identify yourself with for you may well misinterpret it for who you really are, and then feel injured by something that should not matter’.

That’s a comment I recently made on a social media site after someone took exception to a well-intentioned comment, an honest observation which was completely in context with the conversation and meant to be of assistance ~ one that indeed could have been appreciated for its value if it hadn’t been taken personally. The drama resulting from that knee jerk reaction, and there is always an element of drama whether it be big or small, just wasn’t worth it. There was no value or lesson in it ~ it was wasted energy, and achieved nothing beyond creating negative feelings. All that could then be done was to draw a line under it with goodwill, and then, let it go with a great big blessing ~ you can’t beat yourself up about good intentions that went astray.

Now there’s a big difference between a well-intentioned observation and an opinion or judgement that is meant to harm. Many years ago when I was prac teaching I was at the receiving end of daily assessment and judgement. Being inexperienced in the classroom, much of what was obvious to the person doing the assessing and judging was not so obvious to me. While I may not have agreed with all of it ~ some of it was very subjective, even picky ~ I took every word on board, and examined and considered it because I wanted to improve. I didn’t take exception to any of it because it had nothing to do with my worthiness. It did however have everything to do with my desire to do better. And nothing has really changed. While I will never need anyone’s approval ~ as Eleanor Roosevelt said, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission”, I still have the desire to improve … in all areas of my life. So sometimes it’s worth listening ~ I would much rather be open to a well-intentioned honest observation than dismiss the opportunity to do better. Sometimes, you’ve just got to say, “Yeah you’re right, and I’m willing to work on that”. After all, when we know better, we do better.

When we are young and inexperienced knee jerk reactions are understandable ~ we’ve all had them!  It’s part of the process of learning and growing. However when we understand growth on the highest level it’s easy, and in fact a true blessing, to embrace self-improvement no matter where the motivation comes from. A wise friend, T.W. Smith, recently coined these most beautiful words ~ ‘I embrace correction for it nourishes my soul peacefully while allowing me to be in tune with my destiny’. I could not have chosen more perfect words!

In fact, when you feel secure within yourself and know who you truly are, you start to view yourself so differently you begin to see that there is indeed more value and clarity in a considered response rather than a knee jerk reaction. And you will not only be able to release any feelings of negativity, you will even be thankful for a comment that may once have upset you. As Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements says: ‘There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you don’t take anything personally’.

I have a dear friend who is very spontaneously direct. She’s so straightforward and honest it never occurs to her not to say what she thinks. We have been good friends for over 30 years and not once have I taken anything personally, and neither does she. It’s just not worth it. I know her intentions are pure, and I appreciate her honesty. After all, isn’t it better when we can all be honest with each other? I’m certainly honest and I’d much rather have honest friends. It’s a long time since I’ve been sensitive about anything and tiptoeing around on eggshells is not my thing, especially when I know my intentions come from the heart. The bottom line is I’m much happier when everyone around me is straight up … I learn a lot more that way!

So if you know who you truly are and what you offer comes from a loving caring heart, then identify with that and let go of the need to feel injured, or to justify or defend yourself for it serves no purpose. Spend your energy loving and improving every bit of the real you instead, and you will see the value of what comes to you! Oh, and one more thing … lighten up!  

Inara Hawley © 2013