Everyone would agree that it’s important to maintain balance and harmony in our lives. That means keeping our environment as positive as we can, and the people around us are a big part of that. While there is always a reason why people behave the way they do, sometimes we’re in tune with it, and sometimes we’re not.

Everyone has to work through their own stuff, and they have to do it their own way. However, we don’t always have to go along for the ride. If it doesn’t feel right for us, we don’t have to get involved.

For instance, I’m not comfortable with hostility or drama. By saying that I’m not in any way diminishing what people go through. Heaven knows I’ve had my dramatic moments in years gone by, so I understand it happens, and I have great compassion for those who are in pain and use hostility as a defence, but not as an ongoing way of dealing with life. It’s not for me.  I see it as wasted energy.

Also, if I don’t get out of the way, I find myself wanting to judge, and I don’t ever want to go there. And really, if the vibration feels wrong for me then I know it’s, someone else’s lesson, and it’s time to step aside, send good thoughts their way and let them do what they have to do.

When it comes to any disharmony that rattles me, it’s not only a clear indication of what I don’t want, it always reaffirms what I do want. And when you know it’s not about you ~ and you will always know ~ all you have to do is get out of the way and let it whistle right on by. We will never change how people behave, but we can choose how we respond, and we don’t have to let negative energy impact us. It’s a conscious choice to get out of its way, and by doing it, and sending positive energy their way we affirm our path and who we are.

Now, why not get in there and help I hear you ask? The thing is that if we are not in harmony with the energy, it’s very hard to help. By leaving it alone, it gives those involved a clear run to sort it out the way they are meant to, with folk who can help. Sometimes in the process of stepping aside, the relationship fades away ~ negativity loves company ~ and sometimes it doesn’t. If it does, I keep sending positive energy. It’s the best I can do. But either way, I have maintained my integrity.

So, if something doesn’t feel right, it’s easy ~ get out of the way and keep moving.

Inara Hawley © 2014